How to Create an Awesome & Effective Calm Corner that Kids Will Love

CALM DOWN CORNER TO THE RESCUE!

Creating a calm down corner is an effective tool for those moments when life feels too tough or overwhelming. Young or old, we have all experienced days when it seems like so much goes wrong. Perhaps it was a restless sleep, there was no time to eat breakfast, a toe was stubbed on the way out of the house, an important item was forgotten at home, there might be a misunderstanding with a friend, or an intimidating task to be completed. On top of it all, the world is loud and big and filled with stimulation. The result can be angry, frustrated, unfocused, sad or scared emotions. 

Most of the time, as adults, we can recognize these emotions.  And, fingers crossed, we have enough healthy coping skills in our toolbox to take steps to reestablish calm.  (Ok.  Truth be told:  even if we have healthy coping skills in our toolbox, that doesn’t always mean that we use them, right?)  

Common Stressors for Teens and Children by WholeHearted School Counseling

 

 

COMMON STRESSORS FOR KIDS

Likewise, children have lots of big feelings, too.  In part because they are often dealing with tons of stressors.  From things like not getting enough sleep, busy schedules, big family changes, challenging schoolwork, friendship conflicts, poverty, and loneliness. 

 

Not surprisingly, this means that young people dealing with super tough stuff means they are stuck or about to get stuck in the fight-flight-freeze stress cycle.   So for example, a student may arrive at school already in a reactive, easily triggered state that makes it hard for him or her to learn, be creative, or get along with others. 

 

This is where having a Calm Corner in the classroom or home can do wonders; helping a child regulate his or her emotions and learn important self-calming techniques.  So let’s explore how to create a Calm Corner that’s effective and engaging for kids.  

 

WHAT IS A CALM CORNER?

A Calm Corner is a designated safe space in your classroom or home which offers tools that a child can use to self-regulate when they are experiencing big emotions. A Calm Corner, also referred to as a Quiet Corner, Peace Zone, or Take a Break Area, is not to be used as punishment, but rather, as a collection of tools to take care of emotions.  In particular, a Calm Corner is a place where a child can:
  • Feel safe with big emotions
  • Identify feelings…even and especially the big and sometimes overwhelming ones
  • Do something that helps to de-escalate elevated emotions
  • Pause, get grounded and reset
  • Move from a fight-flight-flee reactive, impulsive state to a thoughtful, responsive having more self-control state 
  • Learn skills to communicate needs
  • Reset so that they are more ready to learn, get along with others, and practice self-compassion

REASONS TO SET UP A CALM CORNER

There are lots of reasons to establish Calm Corner in your classroom or home.  Perhaps the most important one, in my eyes, anyway, is that it sends the message to children that they are loved and important always, even and especially when they might feel out of control, numb, or unworthy. In addition, kids better learn to recognize and identify their feelings, on top of developing transferrable coping skills that can be used both in and outside of the classroom or home.

Moreover, teachers love to use a Calm Corner in their classroom as it helps to reduce disruption.  In In addition to being a wonderful alternative to behavior clip charts (which often feel shaming to children).  

12 TIPS FOR SETTING UP A CALM DOWN CORNER

The following list goes over how to create a calm corner that works.  

1. CHOOSE THE RIGHT LOCATION 

First off, try to set it up in an area away from the louder, busier part the classroom or home.  It’s ideal to create the illusion of separation, while still allowing to keep an eye on the child. 

2. PAY ATTENTION TO AESTHETICS

Make it comfy and inviting.  Keep the palette calming, with soft colors and accents.  In addition, bean bags, soft floor mats, and roomy chairs allow the body to relax.

3. CONNECT WITH NATURE

Bring in nature. Plants and items found outdoors help to calm an active mind. Include photos of beautiful sunsets and trees.

4. SOUNDS MATTER

Noise cancelling earphones and soft music can be super useful as well; helping your child or student to tune out the external noise of the classroom or home.  

5. INCLUDE SENSORY TOOLS

Add fidget and stress relief tools like a stress ball, glitter jar, twisty hand puzzle, putty and kinetic sand.  Additionally, puzzles and blocks can be super helpful, too. 

6. ART SUPPLIES ENCOURAGE CREATIVITY

Provide art supplies like crayons, colored pencils, glitter pens, markers, coloring pages and blank paper. 

7. HELP KIDS IDENTITY THEIR EMOTIONS

Add an emotions wall.  The actual act of identifying your feelings is a coping skill in and of itself.  As they say, you got to name it to tame it. For instance, a feelings check-in can be as simple as a poster displaying different emotions, or can be more interactive such as a chart like this one below. 

8. BREATHING EXERCISES ARE A MUST

Breathing techniques bring mindfulness, focus, and calm into the space.  So be sure to offer various kid-friendly breathing exercise prompts.   For example, good-old-fashioned bubbles and pinwheels are effective (and fun) hands-on tools that encourage on-purpose breathing, too. 

Breathing techniques bring mindfulness, focus, and calm into the space.  So be sure to offer various kid-friendly breathing exercise prompts.   For example, good-old-fashioned bubbles and pinwheels are effective (and fun) hands-on tools that encourage on-purpose breathing, too. 

9. ENCOURAGE POSITIVE SELF-TALK

Help your child or student to cultivate an inner dialogue that promotes self-compassion and belief in him or herself by providing positive affirmations.

10. INVITE SELF-REFLECTION

Lined paper, pencils, and letter writing or journaling prompts can help your child or students express their thoughts and emotions. 

11. CONSIDER WHAT SIZE AND SET-UP WORKS BEST FOR YOUR SPACE

Don’t have space to spare?  Consider using a portable Calm Corner filled with coping tools which fit nicely into a binder, folder, or pencil box. For example, below are some space-saving Calm Corner Kit ideas.

12. TALK ABOUT THE CALM CORNER AS BEING A SAFE SAFE WHERE ALL FEELINGS ARE WELCOME

Lastly, the most important characteristic of how to create a Calm Corner is that your child or students feel safe and supported, and that it is is a space free of shame and judgement

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